Taking care of all the chores around the house can be a full time job, especially when you have children. Cooking, cleaning, buying groceries, and taking care of the household can get quite overwhelming, especially if you are saddled with most of the burden.

If you feel that you are struggling to get everything done on your own and you need a bit more help from your partner, it’s important to ask them in the right way. Nagging or guilt tripping can only create negative feelings and make both parties feel bad.

You want to speak to your husband or wife in a way that encourages them to help you share the responsibilities and work together as a family.

Just Ask For Help

If you don’t ask, you don’t get. Sometimes all you need to do is ask politely for the help you need. All you have to say is, “Honey, can you please help me wash these dishes?” and you might be surprised how often your partner says, “Sure.”

Don’t Be Resentful

If you never ask for help, yet mumble angrily under your breath every time you sweep the kitchen floor or wipe the sink, you’re not being fair to your partner. If you don’t ask them to help you with something, they cannot know what you want. It’s not fair to stew up this anger and be upset, just ask for the help that you need.

Do it as You Go Along

Encourage everyone in your household to clean up after themselves and perform little tasks which will help you in the long run. For example, teach your kids to put their dirty dishes in the dishwasher when they are finished rather than leaving them in their rooms or on the table, so that all you have to do is press the button.

Say Thank You

When your partner helps you, give them a sincere thank you. Let them know that you appreciate them, and ask them if there is anything that you can help them with.

When everyone works together, the household can run more smoothly and harmoniously.